4 Ways I Learned to Go Beyond My Limits

I’m on a quest to improve myself, to transcend, to learn and grow, and to develop my skills, strengths, and divine purpose.

It’s not always easy.

My crippling fear of failure tries to keep me from “dreaming too big,” much less even making an attempt I’m even the least bit unsure about.

I’ve learned that fear limits you and your vision. It serves as blinders to what may be just a few steps down the road for you. The journey is valuable, but believing in your talents, your abilities, and your self-worth can empower you to walk down an even brighter path. Transforming fear into freedom – how great is that? | Soledad O’Brien

I’ve always taken the call to use my “spiritual gifts” incredibly seriously.

At 7 years old, I read the passage of the Bible that talked about the gifts of the spirit. It talked about how we are each given them, that we should use them to make the world better… and I was hooked.

I was captivated by the notion that I had something special about me that could help others.

I became determined to figure out what it was & what it meant to “use” my spiritual gifts.

It wasn’t enough to have them. I had to know how to put them into practice. That’s still my biggest motivation today: to learn more about what it is I have to offer the world.

I, literally, yearn for that wisdom and the power of self-assurance that comes with knowing myself. It is a distinct feeling I get, the same one I got as a bright-eyed kiddo. It’s like an energetic boost upward that starts in my lat muscles and makes my sternum feel like it could just open up to let a beam of light shoot out.

It’s an uplifting & powerful feeling, to say the very least!

As a kid, I loved to help. I wanted to be around people just for the time-spendin’. And I’m that same way now, but with a shit-ton more insecurity.

Like, c’mon, H…

How am I worried about being too loving? Why am I scared to show my true feelings of joy and love?

Well… Vulnerability is hella scary.

And defense mechanisms are soooo effective. *pyerr* …make a joke: deflection… *pying* …don’t reveal your cards: protection… *whoosh* …whew, dodged that personal convo!

Avoiding disappointment is nice. Who likes getting hurt? But, never having that exposure also means missing out on an opportunity to gain. To gain happiness. To gain experience. To gain trust. To gain loved ones. To gain ground in life.

Being worried about criticism, what other people think in general, is pointless. It steals opportunity, too. It steals all the great possibilities that could come from taking a chance.

Being brave & taking a chance to go beyond my comfort zone takes practice. The more I do it, the easier it gets. Sometimes, the voice that urges me to play it safe has to be told to SHURSH & I have to remind myself who I am. Other times, I’ve already pushed so far beyond that I can’t even hear it.

As I’ve worked on going beyond my limits, here are 4 lessons I’ve learned:

Remember: Motivation matters.

If you want to go further and transcend, you need to know why you’ll do it.

Actors talk about knowing their characters’ “Why”… the same of the 5Qs is what myriad motivational figures tell people to find.

Cliché or not, it has merit.

What it is that excites you like nothing else is what will get you into a state of absolute flow.

If, right now, nobody was looking at you. Would the work you are doing make sense?

If nobody saw your photos on Instagram, would it make sense to upload them?

If no one cheered you up or kept an eye on you, would you go ahead with your project, adventure or challenge?


Who are you trying to prove your worth to? What about your worth are you trying to prove?

Digging deeper into these Q&As can help us pinpoint & understand what will push us to go to The Max.

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